Daron's Friendliness Resistance Mix Tape
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
~ Rumi
Friendliness resistance training (my spin on loving-kindness practice) offers an opportunity to explore the notion that human behavior is driven by common drives to be safe, happy, healthy, and comfortable. This is in contrast to our normal default mode of evaluating the observable actions of others.
Here are some songs that tend to reduce my resistance to friendliness.
Everybody
by Ingrid Michaelson
Everybody, everybody wants to love
Everybody, everybody wants to be loved
Happy is the heart that still feels pain
Darkness drains and light will come again
Swing open up your chest and let it in
Just let the love, love, love begin
[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGj1Ugaysbo&w=800&h=450]
Oscar Wilde
by Company of Thieves
We are all our own devil
We are all our own devil
And we make this world our hell
[youtube=://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Arz7qr4saZM&w=854&h=480]
Even in the Dark
by Company of Thieves
This life is constant hunger
See it in the dreamers
Believe in the believers of never-ending love
An endless kind of love
Even in the darkness
Whoa...
Even in the dark
Find your calling
Even in the dark
[youtube=://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8PDoHU5mN0&w=640&h=480]
The Way Clouds Do
by Christine Kane
Well you know, we got a lot to do before we're done
God bless the world and all the ones for whom the night is long
And all these drivers and their dreams
And all these children and their needs
And all the earth and all the trees
All in all it looks like me
[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y1zsOds5Jzk&w=800&h=600]
Shine
by Alexi Murdoch
We only love each from afar
This is how we are fading
You have everything you need right here
Still you want more
Oh this is how we are fading
I'm just a spirit trying to be human
But I'm thinking this is how we are fading
[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AP36oIfnsyk&w=800&h=600]
The Way I Was Made
by Griffin House
Legend says our family tree grows black and white and Indian leaves
And if the history books are right, none of us are really white
In fact, I think that means, that everybodys’ blood is just the same
Whoa oh! It feels so good to have your blood in my veins
[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=maG6VpfqxjU&w=800&h=600]
I See Who You Are
by Björk
Let's celebrate now
All this flesh on our bones
Let's celebrate now
All this…
[youtube=://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJ-BQIsrycM&w=854&h=480]
Let It Be Me
by Indigo Girls
Let it be me
(this is not a fighting song)
Let it be me
(not a wrong for a wrong)
Let it be me
If the world is night
Shine my life like a light
[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qS9KZGvxhA&w=800&h=600]
See also: "Music and Finding God in Church and Smoky Bars, " On Being, Nov. 25, 2015
Someone's Daughter
by Beth Orton
I'm someone's daughter,
And your somebody's son,
Can I ease your pain 'til the morning comes?
I'm no one's daughter,
I belong to the sun,
Gonna ease your pain 'til the morning comes.
[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyYgozjyHWU&w=800&h=450]
Sing
by Dresden Dolls (Amanda Palmer)
Sing for the bartender sing for the janitor sing
Sing for the cameras sing for the animals sing
Sing for the children shooting the children sing
Sing for the teachers who told you that you couldn't sing
Just sing
[youtube=://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CzkoKDCcQqs&w=640&h=480]
Me
by Paula Cole
And it's me who is my enemy
Me who beats me up
Me who makes the monsters
Me who strips my confidence
And it's me who's too weak
And it's me who's too shy to ask for the thing I love
And it's me who's too weak
And it's me who's too shy to ask for the thing I love
But I love
[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fs0g6yL6kDc&w=800&h=600]
Everything Possible
by Fred Small
You can be anybody that you want to be
You can love whomever you will
You can travel any country where your heart leads
And know I will love you still.
You can live by yourself
You can gather friends around
You can choose one special one
And the only measure of your words and your deeds
Will be the love you leave behind when you’re gone.
[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kX4DH_JfSFI&w=800&h=600]
Love You All
by Cloud Cult
I love my father. I love my mother.
And when it’s my time to go, I want you to know, I love you all.
[vimeo 5086434 w=800 h=460]
Cloud Cult - Love You All (Live on KEXP) from Jim Beckmann on Vimeo.
What'll I Do
by Lisa Hannigan
Oh, I don't know what to do with myself
Now that I'm here and, and you're gone
[youtube=://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TvwJMa5b1Qg&w=854&h=480]
It Takes a Lot to Know a Man
by Damien Rice
What are you so afraid to lose?
What is it you're thinking that will happen if you do?
[youtube=://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BxWl-O19i-I&w=854&h=480]