Everyone is already training their attention. It's just that most of us don't realize that we're reinforcing our capacity for internal friction. 

It’s so much more difficult to focus on what’s within your control than on all the things that aren’t.

Mindfulness only seems strange to people who don’t yet know it’s possible to exercise their attention to feel more alive.

Equanimity is the ability to allow a sensory perception to play out without trying to change it. It’s an attentional skill you already have that gets stronger when you exercise it habitually.

We live in a data-driven world but what it takes to thrive can’t be measured.

Why not start practicing now?

Everyone is already mindful, but we could all use a little more practice.

Practice calling off the battle with what hurts temporarily.

Try focusing on what’s noticeably changing from moment to moment.

I'm not a snob about contemplative practice. I see zero shame in scrolling through Instagram during moments like these. I'm not trying to maintain monastic levels of composure throughout the day.

I just decided to explore what would happen if I fell back on what has proved paradoxically comforting in the past when waiting for potentially terrible news.

“Life is so very messy! I have spent most of my life trying to control this messiness with all my imperfections. Recently I discovered that no matter how hard I try, it would bring me more anguish in my attempts to control it. Everything is temporary and some things are just out of our control!“

Kalyn Jolivette

“I want to be drenched in cold water,
to be fully saturated,
to explode into a nap,
to share a piece of truth so true
that it shakes the schemas we've schemed —
most of all the divisions.”

Jane Klinger

Mindfulness doesn’t provide some kind of magical exemption from discomfort. Not at all. It's actually the opposite. It means when practiced consistently—with or without meditation—we can sometimes change the degree to which we fight against some present discomfort.

"It’s ironic that the biggest potential problem associated with focusing on emotional discomfort is closely linked to one of its most powerful payoffs: our cage may get rattled a bit before it collapses."

Shinzen Young

"We can’t always have complete experiences, but sometimes we can and with practice, we can have them more and more."

Shinzen Young